So much for dancing
I've already explained my daughter and our hope that she doesn't marry the man she's with. Anyone with children knows the best tactic is to keep your trap shut no matter how much you want to speak your peace. Why? You put the very child you wish to save in the spot that now she's defending him.
So... with that in mind I have this fake smile I wear just for those occasions.
Today I talked to her on the phone and she thought I'd heard she'd gotten in a big fight with bad dude. I was picturing the dancing here with all of you, the celebration was silently starting as she explained that she packed the baby up and went to spend the weekend with my OLDER Daughter, whom at this moment I'm tempted to refer to as "Dumbass." But.. I won't.
Older daughter apparently told this younger daughter how nobody liked her boyfriend and everyone .. God only knows what she said but God, couldn't you have just made her start choking? Nothing bad.. just a temporary, shut your mouth kindof thing?
So, today younger daughter confronts me about this and I tried to explain that it isn't that we dislike him but we do not like the way he talks to you. I can't undo what Older Daughter did and it sounds like if she heard a morsel from someone, older daughter made it bigger than it was.
That celebration going on in my head? It was quickly turning to thoughts of ripping out someone's tongue. She was always the manipulative one of the bunch and if she wanted to help she failed miserably, if she wanted to make sure everyone was hurt she did a good job.
I had to get off the phone and without lying didn't know what to say to her. Now, when we thought maybe this was coming to an end she's in that spot I didn't want her to be.. defending him. Defending him keeps her closer and in fact she's said she doesn't know what to do but to not bring him around all of us since we don't like him according to her older sister. That just makes her tied even further to him and we don't see her or her baby.
It would make sense to call older dumb..erm..daughter up and give her a piece of my mind but her phone works more than one way and she'd be on the phone to little daughter causing even more trouble. These kids were so cute when they were young...what happened?
